The only suffering one experiences is the suffering that they allow.
One is in control of how they react to any situation, as well as how they react to their own thoughts. We all have the ability to observe and change our own reactive patterns. These reactive patterns are often linked to some type of emotion, which can sometimes cause one suffering (although not always!).
By changing the way one reacts, one can stop allowing thoughts and situations to have power over their emotions.
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