Tag: Shadow Work

The Healing is Already Done.

As we proceed on our healing journeys, we must not forget to acknowledge all of the healing that we’ve already done.

Embrace it, my love.

“It’s a part of the healing process…” I told myself.

With all the hurt I felt, my automatic response was to tell myself, “It will heal, it’s just a process.”

On this path, there was always something else to heal.

Which is not entirely false, although through this process, I found most of my energy being drawn towards the hurt rather than the healing itself.

“Healing” then became the mask that was worn by the “hurt“.

“This is healing.” became an excuse to focus on the hurt, which was painful, yet comforting in it’s familiarity.

“Yes this will heal, and look at what already has.“

While I was sitting in meditation one day, this dropped on my head.

“I am healing… I am healing… I am healing…”

“…wait… look at how much healing I have already done…”

An immediate shift in perspective.

Yes, I am healing, and I am also healed.

“I acknowledge this process, and I appreciate where I am now.“

Acknowledging this process, and allowing it to run it’s course, does not require constantly checking in on it.

It is the constant checking in on it that keeps it active. (The Quantum Zeno effect.)

This happens naturally, on it’s own time.

Rather than focusing on what was being healed, and telling myself, “This is healing,” I began to focus on, and appreciate, how much healing I had already done, as this healing process was still going to occur whether I checked in on it or not.

There will always be room for reflection, this is not meant to deny the hurt.

Rather, this encourages one to experience it fully, to accept it, and to come to terms with it.

When we avoid it, we trap ourselves in it, for the act of trying to escape from something enhances the illusion that there is something to escape from.

When we deny it, we shove it into our unconscious, our shadow, and it shall subtly reveal itself in other areas of our lives.

When we allow ourselves to rest in the center of our hurt, simply being, without fear, without fighting, and place our attention on the peace that resides within us, as a result of what has already healed, the peace that was once the same kind of hurt, we are choosing to see the glass as half full, which then attracts more positive experiences into our lives.

At the end of the day, we choose the lens through which we perceive all of our human experiences, we choose what we attract into our lives by choosing what we allow into our lives, and we decide the direction we go in on this journey, which is also the destination in and of itself. ❤

Why Do We Do What We Do?

There is great power in taking a moment to stop and ask ourselves, “Why am I doing this?”

A simple question can open so many new doors.

The Power of Intention

Intention is at the core of what fuels everything.

It is important to realize that not all of our intentions are conscious. There are also unconscious intentions: When we do things without realizing why we do them.

Sometimes, we have intentions that are different from the intentions that we think, and make ourselves believe, we have. This is when we say and believe that we are doing things for one reason, while we unconsciously do them for another.

Regardless of whether it is conscious or unconscious, intention is powerful, and awareness is key in understanding why we do the things we do.

Uncovering The Source

To uncover the source of our actions, we must first become aware of the actions themselves.

When we catch ourselves doing something that we don’t know why we do, first, it is important to notice everything that we can about this action.

  • How does this action make me feel?
  • Am I completely present for this action?
  • Is this something that I feel obligated to do?
  • Does this action serve me in any way?
  • Why am I doing this?

The more conscious and open we are towards this action, the more we will be able to decode it. The more we will reveal about ourselves, to ourselves, and the closer we will become to understanding who we really are.

(Note: This is also a form of shadow work.)

It is ultimately our choice whether we put in the work to comprehend these underlying intentions that we all hold, and once we do so, we can make the conscious decision to choose a path of intent that serves us. This is what it means to live consciously.

Does It Serve You?

Now, the BIG question: Does this action serve you based on the intention that fuels it?

This goes back to how the action makes you feel. Replenished? Drained? Fulfilled? Regretful? Do you do it out of love and compassion? Spite and envy? Does it bring you joy and excitement? Lack and dissatisfaction? Whatever it may be, the true answer lies in how it makes you feel.

From this point, my simple rule of thumb moving forward is: “If it does serve me, then keep it. If it does not serve me, then get rid of it. For if it does not serve me, and I still keep it, then I am only betraying myself.“

I understand, first hand, how difficult of a process letting go can be, especially if it is something that we have become comfortable with. Regardless though, the first step in letting go of actions that do not serve us is by setting the intention to do so.

Setting New Intentions

Genuine, new intentions.

In other words: If we, on some level, do not want the intention to be set, then it will not be set. It requires mental clarity and focus, a conscious understanding of “why” the intention is being set in the first place, and the will for the set intention to be carried out.

In addition: When we make the decision to set a new intention, this intention can be for no one other than ourselves. It has to be an intention set by us, for us. Even if we set the intention to “give back to others“, we would have to do so from a place of being open to receive.

(Also, please note: Prioritizing the self is not selfish, for we can never give if our tap is empty.)

In conclusion: The best way to clear intentions that fuel actions that do not serve us, is to set new intentions that fuel actions that do. Intention is powerful, so let us choose to be conscious, and choose positive intent, for ourselves and others.