The Power of Self-Validation

There have been numerous times where I aimed to prove myself, consistently expecting to receive validation externally, seeking confirmation and permission slips outside of myself, only to realize that the validation I was missing was my own.

Affirmations: “I am enough.” “I have my own validation.” “I allow myself to be free of any expectations.” “I give myself the permission.”

What We Seek, We May Find Within.

We all have the potential to be the source of our own validation, and we all have the ability to provide ourselves the confirmation that we are already enough.

This may take practice, and a consistent devotion to oneself through making an effort each day to feel this, live this, breathe this, and believe this at a core level.

With time, and intentional, conscious, action towards being the receiver of our own love and validation, we may then step into sovereignty, autonomy, and inevitably, our true power of self-sufficiency. ❤️

Embracing Autonomy, Living in Sovereignty.

We are all sovereign and autonomous beings; It just takes realizing this, and giving ourselves the permission to be this.

Embracing autonomy and living in sovereignty is not to exclude, nor avoid, any external relationships and interactions, but to show up for them coming from a place of genuine wholeness and appreciation rather than deprivation and necessity, which is of the deepest and most authentic love.

In other words: This is to be devoted to showing up as the best, most authentic, and whole version of ourselves, which will most definitely reflect in our relationships with others.

Even when we interact with others, we are still ourselves, and even when we are in relationships with others, we are still alone, and that is okay! It is only “not okay” if we make it, and see it as something, that is “not okay“.

At the end of the day, it is us who we are left with.

We are the ones who perceive, observe, and react to our own thoughts. We are the ones who feel and fully experience our emotions. We are the ones who set our own boundaries and choose what we shall allow into our lives, and we are the ones who take, make, create, and experience the results of our own actions.

Our power lies not in running from this truth, but resting in it. Allowing ourselves to be comfortable, and content, with this concept of conscious sovereignty and autonomy. To make peace with this, to realize that we are the source, and to witness all of the genuine beauty that blooms out of this simple yet utterly divine truth, and how it may shed light on all other aspects of our lives as well, like a synchronized domino effect portrayed in this dance of life itself.

Vowing to Love Ourselves, As We Are.

We are already enough, but will we allow ourselves to see this?

Will we allow ourselves to feel this, at a core level? To make the effort and take the strides of converting this into a core belief within ourselves? Will we allow ourselves to do this, feel this, believe this, be devoted to this, and to be free of any limitations that we would have made ourselves believe?

All it takes is our permission.

All it takes is our word.

All it takes is our intention, devotion, discipline, and a vow to love ourselves, as we are.

So when will we mark this conscious devotion to ourselves?

The only one we would be waiting on is us… So when will we say “go”?


United Being’s writing is not objective truth, but a fresh lens to consider perceiving the world through. There is no “right” or “wrong” way of interpreting this, and I encourage all of my readers to absorb the information that I provide here, and use it as a tool to be integrated into your own unique and individual perspective, as you continue to tread and honor your own path. All my love, and genuine best wishes.❤️

The Power in Being Soft

Taking the time to learn how to be gentle and patient with ourselves cultivates a space for nurturing, healing, and recovery in our daily lives, which also reflects in our relationships with others.

“Gentleness and kindness are like two peas in a pod, they work together unanimously.”

To be kind with ourselves, we must also learn how to be soft and gentle with ourselves, as well as patient, open-minded, and forgiving, which all coincides.

If we approach ourselves with the idea that there is something that has to be changed, that isn’t good enough, then we will remain there, exactly how we perceive ourselves to be in that moment, through that perspective, like a rigid structure, an image of ourselves locked in time, because that is all that we will be able to be, all that we will be able to see, and all that we would make ourselves believe that we are…

There is no changing the unchangeable, unless the unchangeable mustn’t be changed…

Seeing it as something that exists is holding onto the idea that it does. Loving and accepting it as it is is to realize that it was only love all along…

This is not to say that there are not things that we obviously want and intend to change, this is just to say that focusing on those things, through that lens, can harbor it as a limitation.

If there are things that we would like to see change, and to become transmuted into something new, then what does that change look like? What does that change feel like? Can we trust that this change is already coming, as long as we allow it to, and accept whatever is here now as it is?

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.”

– Lao Tzu

“However it is that we spend our days, we always end it with rest…”

To be soft is to be fluid, flexible, and free… Although being soft with others begins with being soft with ourselves, as they are one in the same, so long as we recognize this.

When we are rigid and hard, whether it be mentally, physically, or spiritually, it can only exist for so long before it returns back to softness. Softness is the source, but it needs tension in order to create. If there was no resistance, then there would be no-thing.

Although even then, the resistance is guided by a softness, guided by itself. Softness must inevitably resist itself in order to expand, in order to create, and even then, it is comfortable knowing that the resistance is only temporary, and will eventually return itself back to its natural order, back to its natural state. (The state of which it actually was all along…)

Even rigidity and hardness are actually no different than softness at its core… They are one in the same, only expressed differently. It is this multifaceted expression that allows softness to experience itself in duality. For a certain amount of time, softness can become hard and perceive and experience itself as another.

Although through time, many of us have unintentionally allowed ourselves to perceive this life experience as an “act” rather than an “experience, forgetting our true origins. Thinking that we have to “be” and “live up to” these expectations and roles that don’t actually exist, only as we imagine them to be (which counts for a lot!).

This is an “act” when we deny ourselves, clinging onto the roles that we play out of familiarity and a fear of losing what is “known”, even if it’s losing our sense of identities that were embedded in the minds of others. This is an experience when we remember who we are, and recognize that even if there is no point, no purpose, and no “real other”, we have the ability to create anything that we choose.

We are all the Creators, and we can choose to believe that this bodily experience is an illusion, a façade, and a prison, or we can see that this human experience is a unique method of channeling our higher-selves, immersing oneself in a journey of deep exploration, and a blank canvass providing us with the ability to build and create beautiful art through time and space.

Infinity is not only “all that is“, but also all that never was, all that still is not, and all that will never be”. Soaking in this concurrent concept of “all that is created was always here.and all that is here was never created and never was.”

Softness is a breeding ground for new things to emerge…

When we are soft, we can better foster nurturing, healing, and recovery. This where new things can grow. This cultivates a space within where anything is welcome to come through, without judgement and the need to control.

This is to realize then that anything that we would have been trying to control, would only be an effort to control ourselves, because we are the ones experiencing that emotion.

We can only be soft with another when we learn to be open and soft with ourselves, which is not always easy, but I believe is most definitely worth the challenge. Only then, when we have released all control, and all fear of losing who we thought we were, will we be able to be truly free, free from a version of ourselves that never actually existed…


United Being’s writing is not objective truth, but a fresh lens to consider perceiving the world through. There is no “right” or “wrong” way of interpreting this, and I encourage all of my readers to absorb the information that I provide here, and use it as a tool to be integrated into your own unique and individual perspective, as you continue to tread and honor your own path. All my love, and genuine best wishes to you all .❤️

3 Keys for Taking Grounded Action

Below, I expand upon three points, and elaborate on how we can use these consistently in taking real, grounded, action towards our goals.

Setting the foundation to create new cycles of thinking for our benefit…

What we’re doing here is changing the way that our minds process and react to certain situations; In other words, we are embedding a new pattern in our minds by doing this.

This process is basically creating a shortcut in our brains, bypassing any unnecessary thinking processes, and cutting straight to the main points of our constructed pathway.

This is like taking a 10 page essay and shortening it to 5 pages, by removing all of the unnecessary “fluff”, and keeping the main points of the paper.

This is creating a clear map of our goals in a language that our brains understand. Each point that we get clear on in this process will relay a message to our brains, constructing a clear pathway that allows us to take clear, immediate, and grounded action towards our goals.

1. “I am here.”

When we catch ourselves veering from the path that we’ve set, feeling overwhelmed, caught up in thoughts about the past, the future, and all of the “maybes“, the first step is always to realize this:

“I am here.”

To take any grounded action, we must first get the “grounded” part down. So before anything, the first step is to realize where we are.

Anything else was out of our control anyways, because it existed outside of this moment, and this moment is where we are.

So before jumping into anything else, the foundation is always set in the now, because this is where the grounded action is taken, regardless of the goal/endpoint.

So to begin: “I am here.”

Not there, and not then, but here.

2. “Where am I going?”

This is where the goal is set. Not the steps that come along the way, and not the contemplation/rationalization of everything that may or may not come as a byproduct of that goal, but the ultimate goal itself.

So once we realize where we are, we can then ask ourselves and get clear on:

“Where am I going?”

What is the point that I intend to get to? Not how am I going to get there, but where am I getting to? The ultimate end goal.

Getting clear on this allows the mind to construct a clear vision of our goal, and set it as the endpoint of where we are moving to. This gives our brain tunnel vision and laser focus when referencing our goal, because there is no doubt nor question regarding a destination.

“This is where I am I headed, and that is it. I do not know how I am getting there, but I do know that there is where I am getting to.

3. “What am I going to do about it?”

So we have grounded ourselves in the present, realized where we are, and set a clear goal for where we are going, now what do we do? After getting clear on the first two steps, identifying the starting-point and the endpoint, we can then move on and ask ourselves:

“What am I going to do about it?”

Not “What am I going to do about it in the future?” but “What am I going to do about it now?”

This is where we do not give ourselves a choice. This is the step that ties it all together. This is the “action” part of the grounded action, and this is where we take the first step.

There is no questioning, only doing. This is identifying a step, no matter how small or how big, that will bring us towards that goal, that can be taken in this very moment, and doing it without question.


When this first step is taken, then so is the grounded action! Following this three step process can be done anywhere, anytime, and in any situation. This allows us to see what we can do now, here, in order to get there, and trusting that we will get there, while still being here, and doing what we can in the moment.

These are the steps that I apply for taking grounded action in my life, and this has been a powerful process! So all of my love and best wishes, I invested a great deal of time and energy into writing this post, and genuinely hope it helps!


I also briefly expand upon this topic in the newest episode of my podcast, Interplay. Feel free to check it out and support below!

INTERPLAY, EPISODE 1, OUT NOW: Exploring the Conscious, Subconscious, & Unconscious Facets of Mind

“In this new series, we explore the intricate, complex, and beautiful construct of our minds, and learn how we can take advantage of this understanding to use it to our fullest potential.”

Jo, CREATOR OF “INTERPLAY”

I’m excited to announce that Episode 1 of the New Podcast Series, Interplay, Made With the Intent to Expand the Minds of Each and Every Listener, is Out Now!

The reason that I crafted Interplay is to help anyone understand how we can use the power of our minds to their fullest potential, understanding how the unconscious, conscious, and subconscious makes up the basic structure of our mind, how these aspects of mind work with each other, and how we can use this interconnection and interplay to our advantage in processing information and programming the underlying functionalities of our mind. 

Even though it is only episode 1, there was still a great deal of energy and heart that was incorporated into the makings of this content, and I plan to keep it this way through the entire series. This series is literally created one word at a time, with each word having a strategic placement in order to convey a grand meaning of why I created the show in the first place!


Available to Listen on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, and Amazon Music!

The episode itself is a mere 10 minutes long, and still has the potential to shift one’s perspective and open many new doors of thought. Welcome to the kick off of the Interplay series, and I appreciate all of your support, as always!

Welcome to the Unconscious! Interplay

In this first episode, we kick off the series by exploring the significance of the unconscious, as well as its interplay with the conscious and subconscious facets of mind. Welcome to a series filled with stepping stones that will leave you with a fresh new set of eyes, and the opening of doors to a grand new perspective!

Feel free to follow me and subscribe here, on Spotify!

Thank you! All my love and best wishes to all of you beautiful minds. ❤

Living in the Middle

The middle is a pretty comfortable place to be. What is it to live a balanced life, a life of “in between”?

The Importance of Being Balanced

To be in balance is to be at ease. There is no “other“, there is no opposition. When we are in balance there is no chasing one side, nor running from the other. There is no push, there is no pull. There is simply peace with all that is, with all that is not, and with everything in between.

3 Tips for “Middle Living”

Here are some reminders that help myself to be centered and balanced in life, with the aims that it may help you as well.

1. BE WARY OF “EXTREMES”

Perceiving the world through a filter of extremes is a major limitation. The truth is that this reality is a spectrum. Our minds often like to fit things into categories. We tend to label things as “this” or “thatfrom a dichotomous point of view.

(It also helps to avoid talking in extremes, with the two main words to avoid being “always” and “never“.)

Overall, a mindset of extremes is detrimental. Life is so complicated and that’s honestly the beauty of it. There is no concrete “thing” and there is no concrete “other”.

Balance is embracing fluidity. To realize that there never was one or the other, but both. One and the other. Which encompasses it all. One, which is also both simultaneously.

Therefore, by being in the “middle“, you encompass both things, one thing, and neither thing, all at the same time. What a concept, right?

2. use YOUR BODY as YOUR COMPASS

There are many metaphors that can be used with the physical body. One that I like to use in this case is thinking of the body as a compass, and a controller for our energy.

The body, mind, and spirit are all intertwined and interconnected. Therefore, they all influence each other. Thinking of it in this way, we can literally use our physical bodies to adjust our balance on an energetic level.

I will now share how I do this. I use these techniques on my own to calibrate my energy on a daily basis:

  1. First, it always helps me to do a quick energy cleanse. What this mainly does is clear any limiting energies that I may be holding onto unconsciously. I do this by:
  • Closing my eyes.
  • Visualizing a clear field encasing my body.
  • (In mind.) Focusing on the intention to cleanse my entire energetic field within that moment.
  • After that point, so be it, and it is done.

2. The next step I take to balance my energy is to close my eyes, and bring all of my attention on my spine. For me, my spine basically represents my body’s antenna, and it’s a great tool for balancing. To do this:

  • I set the intention to accumulate and gather all of my energy into my spine, visualizing it as a magnetic force.
  • I imagine each inhale guiding my energy down my spine to the bottom, and each exhale guiding my energy up my spine to the top.
  • I visualize this energetic breathing pattern as a continuous and cyclical motion.
  • When all of my energy is rooted in my spine, I then move on to the next step.

3. Lastly, I move into my heart center by:

  • Closing my eyes.
  • Bringing all of my awareness to my heart.
  • Visualizing a green field of energy surrounding it, feeling both the front of my body and the back of my body.
  • (In mind.) Setting the intention to be centered in this space, opening myself up to giving and receiving love. So be it. ❤

Once I conclude rooting myself in my heart and along my spine, I like to finish off by visualizing energy flowing out of my heart center and into both of my palms, down my spine all the way to the bottoms of my feet, and up my spine meeting the crown of my head.

This process leaves my physical and energetic bodies balanced, aligned, and rejuvenated.

3. notice where your boundaries lie

On a closing note, I will finish on the subject of boundaries. The importance of boundaries can often be overlooked. I know it seems contrary to what I touched upon earlier on the topic of reality being a spectrum, although I did also included that there was no “one” and no “other“, having it therefore be “both“.

Using discernment can help us to determine whether boundaries serve us or limit us by being there. Boundaries can change, and sometimes they’re nonexistent when they should be present. We all create our own boundaries, and we all have them.

Sometimes we’re confused about where they lie because they were never fully established, and sometimes we let them rule our lives by seeing them as a barrier that will always be there. By having boundaries that are well-maintained and in between both of these, we find balance in setting clear boundaries of our own and respecting the boundaries of others.

A life in the middle is a never-ending dance. One of a constant flow and motion, twists and turns, rights and wrongs, and everything in between. So have fun, release rigidity, embrace your play, and be free in this wild complexity of what we call the universe. ❤

Why Do We Do What We Do?

There is great power in taking a moment to stop and ask ourselves, “Why am I doing this?”

A simple question can open so many new doors.

The Power of Intention

Intention is at the core of what fuels everything.

It is important to realize that not all of our intentions are conscious. There are also unconscious intentions: When we do things without realizing why we do them.

Sometimes, we have intentions that are different from the intentions that we think, and make ourselves believe, we have. This is when we say and believe that we are doing things for one reason, while we unconsciously do them for another.

Regardless of whether it is conscious or unconscious, intention is powerful, and awareness is key in understanding why we do the things we do.

Uncovering The Source

To uncover the source of our actions, we must first become aware of the actions themselves.

When we catch ourselves doing something that we don’t know why we do, first, it is important to notice everything that we can about this action.

  • How does this action make me feel?
  • Am I completely present for this action?
  • Is this something that I feel obligated to do?
  • Does this action serve me in any way?
  • Why am I doing this?

The more conscious and open we are towards this action, the more we will be able to decode it. The more we will reveal about ourselves, to ourselves, and the closer we will become to understanding who we really are.

(Note: This is also a form of shadow work.)

It is ultimately our choice whether we put in the work to comprehend these underlying intentions that we all hold, and once we do so, we can make the conscious decision to choose a path of intent that serves us. This is what it means to live consciously.

Does It Serve You?

Now, the BIG question: Does this action serve you based on the intention that fuels it?

This goes back to how the action makes you feel. Replenished? Drained? Fulfilled? Regretful? Do you do it out of love and compassion? Spite and envy? Does it bring you joy and excitement? Lack and dissatisfaction? Whatever it may be, the true answer lies in how it makes you feel.

From this point, my simple rule of thumb moving forward is: “If it does serve me, then keep it. If it does not serve me, then get rid of it. For if it does not serve me, and I still keep it, then I am only betraying myself.

I understand, first hand, how difficult of a process letting go can be, especially if it is something that we have become comfortable with. Regardless though, the first step in letting go of actions that do not serve us is by setting the intention to do so.

Setting New Intentions

Genuine, new intentions.

In other words: If we, on some level, do not want the intention to be set, then it will not be set. It requires mental clarity and focus, a conscious understanding of “why” the intention is being set in the first place, and the will for the set intention to be carried out.

In addition: When we make the decision to set a new intention, this intention can be for no one other than ourselves. It has to be an intention set by us, for us. Even if we set the intention to “give back to others“, we would have to do so from a place of being open to receive.

(Also, please note: Prioritizing the self is not selfish, for we can never give if our tap is empty.)

In conclusion: The best way to clear intentions that fuel actions that do not serve us, is to set new intentions that fuel actions that do. Intention is powerful, so let us choose to be conscious, and choose positive intent, for ourselves and others.

My Journey With Hypnosis

Looking back, I never expected to be where I am today: Owning my own practice at 20, providing services as a hypnotist and life coach… Extremely grateful for all of the experiences that led me to be here, and excited for all that is to come.

Starting United Being as a Blog With a Mission

My name is Jordan Crockenberg, and I started United Being as a blog in June of 2020.

My goal blogging on U.B. was to share what had helped me in my own spiritual journey, knowing that it had the potential help others on their own. When I started United Being as a blog, I was also in the process of diving deep into a collection of different spiritual, mystical, metaphysical, and philosophical teachings and practices.

At the time, I had experienced a spark that ignited my passion to investigate the vastness and variety of these diverse branches of self-exploration, expanded consciousness, and life and all there is to it. This intense curiosity lead me to a stream powerful realizations that greatly influenced my life to this day, giving rise to beautiful awakenings that I continue to experience as a result of the work I put forth.

Observing how life-changing these moments of insight were for me, I was determined and motivated to share all that I had learned with others, using it for good.

Turning United Being Into a Business

On a mission to do work that resonated with me and my passions, and was able to help and be of service to others in the process, I took the first step of registering United Being as a business.

Transitioning United Being into a business was a big step for me, as it became the first milestone that marked my leap into this entrepreneurial journey. Making this shift did come with a lot of risks, but these were risks that I was willing to take considering the fact that I would be doing work that I loved.

How I Came Across Hypnosis, and Instantly Fell in Love

Even with most of my mentors being certified hypnotists, I never considered the fact of becoming one as a career; That is until one of my mentors brought it up to me one day.

As I was leaving my mentor’s office one day, who happens to be a hypnotist, she turned around and mentioned to me that she could potentially see me doing similar work in the future. Knowing her to be a very sensitive and intuitive individual, her words lead me to consider hypnosis as a potential career path.

During a virtual meeting with two of my other mentors, not too long after the consideration of hypnosis as a potential career path, one of my mentors in the meeting brought up an intensive hypnosis certification course that she took and thought would resonate with me. She said that the woman who taught it had her own unique style, was extremely knowledgeable and passionate about anything hypnosis related, and that she was very educated and intrigued by all of the neuroscience behind it. Interested in what this course had to offer, I immediately wrote down the name, and registered soon after.

Taking part in the course, taught by one of my most influential teachers, Melissa Tiers, I was in awe from all that I was learning. Hearing what she had to say, it all made so much sense. Practicing each technique came so naturally to me, and the work felt more like play. As I was taking notes throughout the course, I genuinely couldn’t stop smiling, because I was so excited to learn about this fascinating branch of mind work that I didn’t even know existed, and it was fun! Therefore, going through the experience of comprehensively learning about hypnosis, learning from someone who knew what they were talking about, I knew that this was the work I had been looking for.

Social Networking For The Conscious And Truth-Seeking Community

Big news, we are transitioning United Being to a social media platform!

United Being’s mission is to provide an online social networking platform for the higher-conscious/truth-seeking community to connect with one another and expand their knowledge and understanding on a variety of spiritual, mystical, metaphysical, and philosophical topics. Our goal is to provide a positive safe space where people can go to learn, grow, and lift each other up

On United Being’s site and mobile app, members will have the opportunity to create their own individual profiles, form online subgroups within the United Being network, share content, and initiate and participate in online forums/discussions within the United Being site/app. (United Being also provides a Newsroom section on our site where we, as United Being, will share a variety of articles and updates on news happening in the spiritual, metaphysical, and philosophical community as a whole.)  

THE LAUNCH OF OUR NEW SITE AND MOBILE APP WILL BE HAPPENING ON MONDAY, NOVEMBER 16th. WE WILL MAKE AN ANNOUNCEMENT AS SOON AS IT IS UP AND RUNNING, SO STAY TUNED!

Posted by United Being LLC ❤

The Power In Asking Questions

“Sometimes questions are more important than answers.”

– Nancy Willard

I’m sure that many of you have heard the saying, “sometimes the questions are more important than the answers,” as have I; Before I realized the extent to how true and impactful this message actually was.

I have found that asking myself questions is the easiest way to become aware of unconscious patterns.

I also made the connection that the wording I used when posing the question played a major role in what I was able to uncover within myself.

For example: Whenever I feel feelings such as fear or anxiety arising within me, I simply ask myself the question, What am I so afraid of? Whenever I ask myself this question, all feelings of fear and anxiety dissipate within me.

Another example is when I catch myself having a difficult time being genuine or authentic with my words, or simply not sure which direction I want to go in. Whenever I feel this way, I pose to myself the question, “What are my true intentions?Whenever I ask myself this question, a sense of clarity comes over me, and I am able to honestly work towards and communicate my goals and expectations.

So often we spend our time unconsciously avoiding or ignoring thoughts or emotions that we don’t like, instead of confronting them with the presence of awareness.

One way to confront these thoughts or emotions with the presence of awareness is by asking ourselves questions. Once we address this cause of suffering by asking ourselves the right questions, we create an internal shift allowing inner peace to take over.

These are just a couple of examples that I use often within my own life, but the power of questions don’t just apply when asking questions to myself, but sending a question out to the universe as well. I have found to be true that whenever I send a question out into the universe, even if the answer may not be direct, I always receive an answer in some form. Although from my own experience, I would say that the simplest and most effective way to use the power of questions to benefit one’s life is by posing them to themselves.

When posing a question to oneself, I have found that the most effective way to do so was by asking it internally, in the form of thought.

Although it is true that we are not our thoughts, as Eckhart Tolle and many others influential teachers express, our mind can still be used as a tool for good.

One does not have to verbalize the question that they are posing to themselves out loud in order for it to have a positive impact, asking the question in the form of internal thought is just as effective, if not more.

The possibilities for the questions that can be posed are endless, whether it be from something as vague as “What do I want?” to something as specific as “What am I feeling?“. At the end of the day, pose whatever question calls to you! We are all on our own individual journeys and thus are looking for our own individual answers that relate to our own individual experiences, so we will all have very different questions to ask, and that is the beauty of it.


I hope this helps. All my love and namaste.

The Power of Self-Discipline

To have self-discipline is to honor and encourage oneself, while being consistent with one’s own word.

The truth about self-discipline is that one simply has to do it. There is no thinking when it comes to making decisions that honors oneself, they either make it or they don’t.

There are many spiritual and metaphysical practices as well that require self-discipline like: yoga, meditation, journaling, educating oneself, and so much more. (although self-discipline can be practiced throughout anyone’s everyday life)

The more one practices making decisions that are aligned with their highest intentions, the easier it will then become to make these decisions. When one remains consistent with their word, then these decisions are no longer a struggle to make; they then become automatic, ingrained as a pattern within our subconscious.

For me in the beginning, I can admit that I had to force myself to become accustomed to such practices of self-discipline. Although looking back now, I am grateful for the ways in which I pushed myself to reach my highest potential.

Below, I list some of the healthy ways in which I was able to establish self-discipline in order to better myself. I hope it helps.


Getting to Know My Patterns

We all have patterns that run through our minds on a daily basis. These are the same patterns that influence our behavior, as well as the decisions we make throughout each day.

Once we become aware of the recurring patterns that we often follow without thought, we are then able to catch ourselves before we unconsciously react to such patterns.

These patterns can be something from eating a sugary snack with a cup of coffee every morning, to smoking a cigarette whenever stress hits, to procrastinating every time one has to do work that disinterests them.

Yes, eventually the intention may be to reprogram these patterns to something that serves us, but nonetheless, the first step is simply becoming aware that these patterns even exist. Once we are aware, we can then take the steps to stopping these patterns through self-discipline.

Stop Playing the Victim Card

One of the most difficult shifts to make, yet also one of the most impactful, was realizing that it was time for me to stop playing the role of the victim and to take accountability for my actions.

As I became more and more aware of how much I unconsciously played the victim card, I also realized how much power I gave away in the process of doing this. I wanted to rise up to my true power, yet I was simultaneously contradicting myself by claiming to be a victim.

If I knew I was a co-creator, then why would I choose to fall victim to my own creations; Unless I had doubt that I was in fact a powerful creator?

This victim mentality was the very thing that was holding me back from reaching my highest potential.

To make this shift, I first had to realize that I could not pick and choose when I created and when I did not. I had to make the connection that I was in control of the experiences that I brought into my life. If I wanted to accept the good, then I also had to take accountability for my mistakes.

Now this does not imply that we are the sole cause of all the suffering on this planet. This simply means that we are in full control of the experiences that we attract within our own personal lives, and that we cannot pick and choose what we want to take accountability for.

Being Consistent

This aspect of adding self-discipline to one’s life is so important, for it involves honoring one’s own words and intentions. To be consistent with your word is to keep the promises that you make to yourself.

For me, this meant following the rules I set for myself until it became routine.

It is so easy (and also very common, it happens to the best of us!) to begin a practice or to set an intention for ourselves in order to establish a set routine, just to have it discontinue as time goes on.

Of course it is never intentional to discontinue said routines, but we often tend to forget soon after, or sometimes manage to find an excuse in order to make ourselves feel better about discontinuing.

The truth of the matter is that being consistent simply requires dedication, determination, and yes, self-discipline. But the good news is that one does not have to rely on anything external in order to implement whatever routine it is they would like to establish, because no one has the power to push and motivate you more than yourself.

The initiative I took that helped me the most when it came to being consistent, in addition to simply taking action in the present moment and doing what it was that I wanted to achieve, was dropping all excuses.

I realized that when I kept being dishonest with myself, and convincing myself of things that were not true, the only person I was lying to and holding back was myself.

I then made the connection that if I was going to maintain self-discipline, it would be for me and my own good; To love and honor myself through genuine and consistent actions (and although I am speaking from my own personal experiences, this can go for anyone).

Making the Right Decisions

Lastly, it cannot be broken down into a simpler form: Make the right decisions.

As I stated above, I realized that making excuses for myself was simply a waste of time. If I wanted to make the right decisions, I came to the conclusion that all I had to do was make them.

This may sound simple, but that is only because it is. I would spend so much time thinking about whether I wanted to make a decision or not, that I would end up making no decision at all; Or I would simply allow my impulsivity to take control and make the decision that I was used to (which was often not the one that served me).

I then reached a point where I was tired of my own excuses, and was hungry for change.

To my surprise, the decisions that bettered me were not difficult to make at all. It was only overthinking and procrastination that convinced me making decisions that were good for me was a complex and nearly impossible feat.

A mere illusion that I convinced myself to accept as true.

No matter what though, through it all, one must not forget to love themselves unconditionally through the process, and to remain patient and forgiving with oneself as they continue to practice and learn.

So I encourage you all to be the best yous that you can be, because we all deserve to be our best authentic selves. All my love, I hope this helps. Namaste.