In this video I discuss some of the benefits of meditation, my experiences with meditation, as well as how to practice it.
When one begins to practice unconditionally loving them self, they are also nurturing a positive relationship between their mind, their body, and their being.
Unconditional love is not something that can be obtained, or a goal that is to be reached. Unconditional love is something that we as human-beings are constantly learning how to practice and cultivate within our own lives.
So many of us often create limitations for ourselves by reinforcing self-constructed negative belief-systems, like patterns of self-doubt and self-judgement. In my personal experience, it feels much better to work towards letting go of such a mentality, and to give yourself a break.
One thing I have learned is the importance of making myself aware of the fact that it is okay to make mistakes, as long as I am able to perceive these mistakes as a lesson to learn from instead of a grievance with the power to hold me back from growing.
Instead of holding such high exceptions for ourselves, as if we’re not human-beings with imperfections, we should work towards being more compassionate and understanding towards ourselves, as we can then more genuinely express compassion and understanding towards others.
It is not selfish to prioritize yourself; if anything, once one practices loving them self unconditionally, they can then radiate that love to others, and share it with whomever they decide to share it with.
You are already complete as you are, you don’t need any external validation to determine your self-worth, and that is truth. ♥
Patience, forgiveness, nourishment, making peace with being alone, a nice warm bath; self-love takes many forms, but at the end of the day, it simply comes down to what works best for one personally, based on their own personal life-experiences.
Trust in whatever feels right for you, and everything else will begin to fall into place.
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer
It is our choice whether we interpret our personal experiences to be positive or negative. In other words, we all have the power to choose to reflect a state of higher awareness, or to remain rooted in patterns of egoistic perception.
One thing I came to realize is that when the ego is in control, it will always manage to find another problem, another thing to complain about, another thing to oppose. Even if there is no problem present, the ego will find a way to create one just so it can continue to survive.
One way I learned how reflect a state of inner peace and higher awareness, instead of allowing myself to fall into negative ways of thinking and reactivity, is to live in a constant state of gratitude.
If I am resting in a hot room, there are two ways in which I can perceive the situation:
- “I can’t take this heat, this is so unpleasant. If I just had another fan to cool me off I would feel much better.” And so on…
- “I’m grateful that I am inside with some air flowing. If I were stuck outside, I would be much hotter than I am now. Thank you.”
This is just one small example, but this applies to all the experiences we perceive and encounter throughout each of our journeys. As one continues to practice and become aware of the ways in which they perceive interactions and situations, the ego’s tendencies to seek out negativity will diminish (as the ego itself will begin to diminish due to the presence of awareness), and all that is positive will start to become apparent.
“What you react to in another, you strengthen in yourself.” – Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth
Anyone has the ability to become the observer of thought instead of identifying with thought.
When one is able to see thoughts for what they are, a programmed belief system existing only within one’s own mind, they are then over time able to reprogram these thought patterns in order to initiate a positive shift within themselves. If one does not become aware of their negative thought patterns, then these same thoughts continue on as a cycle of ego-based suffering.
Real positive change for oneself always begins on an internal level; but one can only make the decision to change for themselves, not anyone else. If one does not want to create change for themselves, or is not truly open to change, then they can never achieve this positive change until they make the choice (on their own) to create that internal switch.
Our egos love to convince ourselves that making such an internal switch is an impossible feat, when in reality that is not the case at all. Yes, it may take time to understand your negative patterns and to form new positive ones, and I can personally tell you now it’s not always easy to dedicate oneself to such an internal change, but this is something that any human being can achieve; if they are willing to place enough importance on it.
So if you are contemplating a change within yourself, allow me to ask you this one question, the question that was at the root of all of the positive change I initiated within myself:
Do you think you have suffered enough?
(With all my love, this post was inspired by Eckhart Tolle)
Guide your attention towards being within the present moment, be content with what is.
For me personally, nothing is more important than being content within the present moment. Once one learns how to be satisfied with what is, or in other words, once one learns how to simply be, then awareness and inner peace have room to move in.
It may sound simple, but bringing all of your attention to the present moment is not always an easy task.
Like anything that can be mastered, it takes practice. Our mind consists of many thought and reactive patterns that are constantly playing through our heads on a daily basis. Sometimes we become so used to these thoughts and ways of reacting that we don’t even realize they’re there playing in the background.
We often forget that these thoughts are just thoughts, not who we are. When we take on thoughts as our identity instead of a passing production of our minds, we’re allowing our egos run the show and therefore slip into a negative cycle of judgement towards a part of ourselves that doesn’t even really exist (except as a mental construct within our own head), which often leads to more unnecessary suffering.
When one becomes conscious of the present moment, they simultaneously become aware. If you practice meditation, one way you could identify this awareness as a reference is as “the space between,” that calm and peaceful sensation that arises between each passing thought.
To forgive and let go of the past, to cease placing so much importance on the future, to be here now at all times, to be content and satisfied with all that is, there are many different paths to presence, but the goal is all the same.
This post was inspired by Eckhart Tolle, one of my greatest influences.
I will make sure the reality I create is the one I desire.
This mantra strongly resonates with me to this day. Whenever I remind myself that my experiences in this collective reality are correlated with my thoughts, intentions, and overall outlook on life, awareness rises, and I am able to direct my attention towards the things that I love and desire.
Realigning myself with all that is positive, all that is love, allows any fear to subside and for inner peace to move in. With inner peace also comes focus and clarity. When the mind ceases to produce fear based thoughts, and when one comes from a place of good intention, one’s external experiences will also reflect this state of inner peace.
Your energy flows where your attention goes.
Don’t believe everything you think.
Sometimes people can be so used to repetitive negative thoughts and identifying with thought that they begin to truly believe certain negative thoughts to be true, when in reality, they have nothing to do with the Truth.
Once one becomes aware of thought, they then have the power to recognize what thoughts bring them suffering versus what thoughts bring them inner peace. Once one makes this connection, they can then let go of the thoughts that induce nothing but negativity, and focus more of their attention and awareness on their positive thoughts.
One can try letting go of what no longer grows them, serves them, or makes them happy.
“Unease, restlessness, boredom, anxiety, dissatisfaction, are all the results of unfulfilled wanting. Wanting is structural, so no amount of content can provide lasting fulfillment as long as that mental structure remains in place.” –Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth