“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” – Carl Jung
“The ego lives through comparison. How you are seen by others turns into how you see yourself (If you allow it to be this way, but one can avoid this through the presence of awareness).” – Eckhart Tolle
“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer
It is our choice whether we interpret our personal experiences to be positive or negative. In other words, we all have the power to choose to reflect a state of higher awareness, or to remain rooted in patterns of egoistic perception.
One thing I came to realize is that when the ego is in control, it will always manage to find another problem, another thing to complain about, another thing to oppose. Even if there is no problem present, the ego will find a way to create one just so it can continue to survive.
One way I learned how reflect a state of inner peace and higher awareness, instead of allowing myself to fall into negative ways of thinking and reactivity, is to live in a constant state of gratitude.
If I am resting in a hot room, there are two ways in which I can perceive the situation:
- “I can’t take this heat, this is so unpleasant. If I just had another fan to cool me off I would feel much better.” And so on…
- “I’m grateful that I am inside with some air flowing. If I were stuck outside, I would be much hotter than I am now. Thank you.”
This is just one small example, but this applies to all the experiences we perceive and encounter throughout each of our journeys. As one continues to practice and become aware of the ways in which they perceive interactions and situations, the ego’s tendencies to seek out negativity will diminish (as the ego itself will begin to diminish due to the presence of awareness), and all that is positive will start to become apparent.
“What you react to in another, you strengthen in yourself.” – Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth
It is okay to not know sometimes.
This quote can apply to so many different things in life, so it is important to know that there is no one-right-way to decipher this principle, as it is subjective regarding the way in which it applies to each own’s individual journey.
“I believe this is the most powerful idea for each of us: realizing that we’re here to discover and honor our own individual path. It doesn’t matter whether we renounce the material world and meditate on a mountaintop for 20 years or create a billion-dollar multinational company that employs thousands of people, giving them each a livelihood. We can attend a temple or church, sit on the beach, drink a margarita, take in a glorious sunset with a loved one, or walk through the park enjoying an ice cream. Ultimately, whichever path we choose is the right one for us, and none of these options are any more or less spiritual than the others.” – Anita Moorjani, Dying to Be Me
Anita Moorjani has always been a huge inspiration for me. After four long years of struggling with cancer that had spread throughout her entire lymphatic system, Moorjani had a near death experience on February 2nd, 2006. Five weeks after having this experience, she was released from the hospital completely cancer-free. To this day, she continues to spread the message of love, positivity, and the connection to who-we-really-are.
“When you become adept at directing your thoughts to things that are pleasing, the unpleasing people (or unpleasing aspects of those people) will leave your experience. It is your attention to the unwanted that holds it in your experience.” – Esther and Jerry Hicks, The Vortex